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Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding: In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6

Dad's lived in this area and I've been overseeing his care for the last four and a half years. I feel so blessed to have had all this extra time with my dad. He eventually moved into the State Veteran's Home, because the doctors felt he needed Skilled Nursing 24/7 for his Parkinson's Disease and frequent bouts of pneumonia.

Dad had recently been diagnosed with the early stages of pneumonia. That's common occurrence for people with Parkinson's Disease, or at least, that's what I've read. I called the Veteran's Home today to make sure they were able to get Dad on some Probiotics. Several years ago, before he went to the Veteran's Home, he had been given a powerful antibiotic without also getting Probiotics and got C Diff and had to be put in isolation, because it's very contagious bowel condition.

When I talked to the nurse, Dad was already on Probiotics, but had another issue. They had taken an culture and it was positive for MRSA. Dad is now on quarantine for the next 14 days while they have him on this new antibiotic for it. Anyone who goes in to see him has to wear a cap and a gown, because it's also highly contagious. Since I go see my dad every week, I asked if I might have passed the MRSA on to my grandkids. She asked if I had a constant cough, which I don't have, although I occasionally have a sinus cough. She said that she could tell by my voice that I was fine and not to worry. I will be donning the mask and gown this week when I go see Dad, because it's important for me to be there to support him in health and in sickness. He was there for me all those years when I was growing up whether I was healthy or sick. 

Also, I will bring new toothpaste and multiple toothbrushes and mouthwash for his dentures, so he doesn't keep reinfecting himself.

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Back to Dad-His Cough, but God Took It Out of My Hands

My son, do not forget My law, But let your heart keep My commands; For the length of days and long life And peace they will add to you. Proverbs 3:1-2

I had been overseeing Dad's care for the last four and a half years. He, now, lived in a State Veteran's Home, because the doctors said that his Parkinson's Disease and frequent bouts of pneumonia required Dad to have skilled nursing 24/7. 

Dad had a cough and some phlegm, which didn't seem out of the ordinary. I had even seen him spit it into what we call his "Spit Cup", but I didn't see any green or yellow coloration from where I was sitting. Still Dad continued to cough for me, so I would know that he has that gurgly sound in his throat. I asked him a couple of times if I could tell the nurses, he told me not to bother them with it.  

Fortunately for me, God took it out of my hands. One of the physical therapy assistants came to give Dad a treatment. She noticed that he had a gurgly cough. She got the gadget for telling his pulse and took his blood pressure. She, also, got some of the nurses to come down and look at Dad. They decided to have Dad get a chest X-ray. I found out the next day that Dad had the start of pneumonia. They had caught it early enough that they were able to get Dad started on antibiotics, so he could stay right there at the Veteran's Home where he is most comfortable. I was so thankful that they caught it early again, so that he didn't have to go to the hospital!

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My son, if you receive My words, And treasure My commands within you, So that you incline your ear to wisdom, And apply your heart to understanding; Yes, if you cry out for discernment, and lift up your voice for understanding, If you seek her as silver, And search for her as for hidden treasures; Then you will understand the fear of the Lord, And find the knowledge of God. For the Lord gives wisdom; From His mouth comes knowledge and understanding; He stores up sound wisdom for the upright; He is a shield to those who walk uprightly: He guards the paths of justice, And preserves the way of His saints. Then you will understand righteousness and justice, Equity and every good path. Proverbs 2:1-9

My husband went with my dad to the Veteran's Clinic to get his eyes tested. Afterward, they ordered Dad a new pair of glasses. Sometime after they came, we took Dad back to the Eye Clinic to get his eyes adjusted.

Dad has several pairs of older glasses. I picked up the ones I could find, because I couldn't tell which pair was the newer pair and which was the older ones. We went over to the Eye Clinic. Unfortunately, all the glasses I had taken over were the older pairs. We were uncertain if his new glasses had gotten lost or misplaced, so we ended up ordering Dad a new pair of glasses.

When we took Dad back to his room, my husband found his new pair of glasses. Now, Dad is going to have enough glasses to lose, misplace, and still have some to wear!

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Back to Dad-His 91st Birthday

A wise man will hear and increase learning, An a man of understanding will attain wise counsel, Proverbs 1:5

Dad is in the State Veteran's Home, because of his Parkinson's Disease and frequent bouts of pneumonia. He was turning 91 and I wasn't sure what to get him. Last year, we took him on a trip to see some relative out of state. Since I was still on the mend from a broken heel and my husband recently had injured his back, that wasn't an option.

I tried to be prayerful about what would make my dad's 91st birthday special. Then, Christ gave me the idea to contact my sister to come here to celebrate his birthday with him. Although she couldn't stay long, it was wonderful! 

She got to play Solitaire with Dad. She got to have meals with him. She got to be with him which was probably the most significant thing of all. Dad gets to see me every week, but it's been awhile since he's gotten to see my sister. I'm so glad that she got to be here for Dad's 91st birthday. What a surprise for Dad! To top that off, my son popped in to share his birthday greetings!

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My son, hear the instruction of your father, And do not forsake the law of your mother; For they will be a graceful ornament on your head, And chains about your neck. Proverbs 1:8-9

I've overseen my dad's care for the last four and a half years. He first moved in with us for the first year, but doctors said that he needed more medical care. They eventually said that the group home he was living in couldn't provide the 24/7 medical care Dad needed that he could get in a skilled nursing facility. Fortunately, there was an available room for Dad at the State Veteran's Home.

Although I had become a caregivee myself when I broke my heel, my husband continued to take me to go visit Dad in the Veteran's Home each week. Dad and I would play Dad's Solitaire. I know there's a bajillion of different Solitaire games, but all I know is this is the one that Dad played for the last 30 or 40 years. He used to play it every day, but now we tried to play it whenever we could we came to visit him.

Solitaire was such a productive game on so many levels. For one, I could tell how my dad was doing when we played the game. When he was pointing to the card he wanted me to move for him and it was to an accurate position, I could tell his mind and vision were working pretty well, at that point. When he was lethargic and kept pointing to cards that didn't go in particular positions he pointed to, I knew Dad was under the weather. That tipped me off to ask the nurses to check Dad out and make sure he was O.K. Often, those were times when he was getting a case of pneumonia or bronchitis. 

Overall, playing Solitaire made my dad feel like himself again. He was in control of playing a game that gave him pleasure all those years and that was priceless!

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The Opposite Side of Denial

I've overseen the care of my dad for the last four and a half years. Everything flipped around when I broke my heel and became the caregivee instead of the caregiver. Fortunately for me, my husband was able to care for me while I mended. Then, as I was mostly healed, my husband's back and shoulder started giving him problems and I became the caregiver again.

The thing I quickly found out was that my husband was in denial. He felt that after a treatment or two, he was all better and could do everything the way he had been doing prior to his injury. It seems like it was about a month and a half later, those same issues flared up again. Again, when I suggested altering the way he had been doing things was met with denial, I had to be prayerful about all of this.

In doing so, Christ led me to know that what I was saying may be true, my husband wasn't at the point that he was ready to hear it. He didn't want any suggestions or tips. He just wanted to be cured fast and to be able to return to his normal routine. He didn't want to look at what in his normal routine might be causing this to flare up again. Fortunately, Christ let me know this. Of course, He reminded me of when I was in denial while my heel was healing and wanted to do things my own way, even if my body wasn't ready for it yet. I had realize that I needed to just be supportive and my husband will come to the conclusions he needs in his timing and not mine. This insight that Christ gave me was very helpful information!

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The Flip Side of Denial

Well, I have been overseeing my dad's care for the last four and a half years. He started out living with us for a year when he first moved here. Then, the doctors felt he needed more medical care than we could provide for him, so he moved to a local group home. Dad's Parkinson's Disease and repeated bouts of pneumonia got to the point that the doctors felt Dad needed to be in a Skilled Nursing Facility 24/7. Fortunately for us, there was an available room for Dad in the State Veteran's Home.

Then, things flipped all the way around. I broke my heel nine months ago and instead of being the caregiver, I was all of a sudden, the caregivee. Fortunately, my husband was able to care for me, but it's totally different being on the other side of the fence, so I'm trying to share the insights God's given me as a caregivee.

Now, I was in denial at times. I thought if only I tried harder, practice more, I could walk sooner and better, but it wasn't always the case. Sometimes, when I tried harder or practiced more, I went to extreme, which sometimes had a counter productive effect. Sometimes, I wouldn't be able to walk or even hobble the rest of the day, because I had overdone it, by doing to much. At those times, it was me trying to make myself healthier and well faster and I wasn't turning it and the timing over to Christ's very capable hands. Sometimes, He just needs us to get stronger first, and exercise with moderation, not self-willed extreme!

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The Flip Side of Shopping

The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that getteth a wise child shall have joy of him. Proverbs 23: 24

When I first started going shopping after mostly healing from my broken heel, I didn't have the stamina to go from one side of the store and back again. I would try walking around the inside of a smaller grocery store several times, to build up my strength. 

Still, some of the bigger stores can wear you slick going back and forth trying to find items. My husband suggested taking a grocery cart and leaning on it as I walked. I was very reluctant to try this, at first. Somehow, it seemed like I was cheating, like I was not building up the muscles in my leg, because I was relying on the cart for support.

I have a friend who is a physical therapist and she said using the cart is really beneficial to build up the muscles. So, I reluctantly tried it until my leg started getting stronger. Now, I most often try to walk across the store without the cart any time I don't have many things to purchase. Of course, when I have a long list, I can still walk along with the cart without leaning on it.

Since these are examples of how I've applied these Bible verses to my experience, they may not reflect the whole meaning of the verse.

I'm including You Tube Video clips on caregiving that I found interesting, inspirational, or might be helpful to others, but am not responsible for the content in the videos. Always check first with a physician before trying any suggestions mentioned.
By: caregivinghelp, Patricia Van Meter, Anne Suzuki, Richard E. Powers, Anna Treinkman, Danielle Arends, Andrea K. Bial, Judy Holstein, Scott A. Miller, Ida Wojcicki via You Tube


The Flip Side-Caregiving and Remembering What It's Like

Come, you children, listen to me; I will teach you the fear of the Lord. Psalm 34:11 NKJV

Well, I had overseen my dad's care for the last 4 1/2 years and had a big adjustment to make when I became the caregivee when I broke my heel and couldn't put any weight on it for almost four months.


When I was released from physical therapy, days later, my husband had a back injury, but fortunately, God had me well enough to help care for my husband who had been caring for me all those many months. 

The tricky thing is, my husband didn't always seem very appreciative of my help or suggestions, which is frustrating. Sure, I had recently been through some of this, but my husband wanted to meander through the healing process his own way, not mine! I needed to keep turning this over to God's very capable hands to when I felt hurt by his lack of enthusiasm for my support. Christ helped me realize that my husband wasn't feeling well and it's normal to be cranky, at times. It was good to be reminded of this!


Since these are examples of how I've applied these Bible verses to my experience, they may not reflect the whole meaning of the verse.

I'm including You Tube Video clips on caregiving that I found interesting, inspirational, or might be helpful to others, but am not responsible for the content in the videos. Always check first with a physician before trying any suggestions mentioned.
By: Mary Alexander, Home Instead, monkeysee.com via You Tube 


The Flip Side of Being a Caregiver While Still Mending

O God, You have taught me from my youth; And to this day I declare Your wondrous works. Now also when I am old and grayheaded, O God, do not forsake me, Until I declare Your strength to this generation, Your power to everyone who is to come. Psalm 71:17-18 NKJV

My husband's back went out right after I had been released from physical therapy. I felt God's timing was so perfect. Although I wasn't totally well, I was told the muscles in my leg would develop more strength over time.

It was just a few days after I was released that his back acted up. We got him into the doctor's office who ordered an MRI and a back surgeon to read the results of the MRI. Well, when he did get to see the back surgeon, he wanted to take his own xrays and never actually read the MRI. He ordered some physical therapy for my husband.

This was really the flip side, because now, I was taking my husband to physical therapy when he had been taking me all those many months. I'm glad I was able to be a support to him.


Since these are examples of how I've applied these Bible verses to my experience, they may not reflect the whole meaning of the verse.

I'm including You Tube Video clips on caregiving that I found interesting, inspirational, or might be helpful to others, but am not responsible for the content in the videos. Always check first with a physician before trying any suggestions mentioned.
By: Liz da Silva, Tapestryfdn via You Tube


The Flip Side-To Being Almost Well

Give to the Lord, O families of the peoples, Give to the Lord glory and strength. Psalm 96:7 NKJV

I couldn't wait for the time when I was well enough to start taking over household chores. My husband had done these things on his own all these many months and I wanted to help do my share. 


The funny thing is, once you start acting like you are better, people think you are, whether you are or not. I know that's a funny thing to say, but I was standing up doing a household project. Something else had to be done and something else, and yet something else. I ended up standing on my legs long after I knew they were aching, but all these things needed to be done and I seemed to be the only viable person, at the time.

People don't always really realize unless that it's their own recuperation, that you may be able to do things for awhile, but need to sit down and rest in between. They don't realize that your body might not be healed enough to complete all of a task, because you look and act like normal. I have to realize that looks are somewhat deceiving and that I can't be resentful to those who don't really understand that my body hasn't built up to have the same stamina to do normal activities that I used to be able to do. 


Since these are examples of how I've applied these Bible verses to my experience, they may not reflect the whole meaning of the verse.




The Flip Side-Not Wanting People to Worry About Me

As a father pities his children, So the Lord pities those who fear Him. Psalm 103:13 NKJV

After I broke my heel, most of the staff and some of the patients that we know at my Dad's Veteran's Home would seem concerned about the progress of my broken heel. They would ask about it intently every week when my husband would wheel me down to see my dad.

When I was using the walker, I remember trying to push myself harder to make it all the way down the hall, so they wouldn't worry so much. Maybe, God used this drive as extra incentive to trying hard to become more ambulatory.

When I could finally walk some, I hobbled my way down that hall, so they could see that they no longer had to worry about me. God is good and has been there every step of the way, even when I couldn't make any steps myself.

Since these are examples of how I've applied these Bible verses to my experience, they may not reflect the whole meaning of the verse.

I'm including You Tube Video clips on caregiving that I found interesting, inspirational, or might be helpful to others, but am not responsible for the content in the videos. Always check first with a physician before trying any suggestions mentioned.
By: Riyadh K via You Tube


The Flip Side of Answering Questions About Progress

Praise the Lord! Blessed is the man who fears the Lord, Who delights greatly in His commandments. His descendants will be mighty on earth: The generation of the upright will be blessed. Psalm 112:1-2 NKJV

It's tricky when people ask you how you are doing when you've been injured or sick. Of course, they want you well and so do you. It's a real dilemma in whether you tell them the truth or you just say the stock thing,  "I'm fine."  

Well, I can say I've done both and there are positives and negatives to both. When I say I'm fine there is the positive of temporarily appeasing the person who's asked the question. The negative is that you've not been totally honest with the person who has asked you the question.

When you really tell the questioner how you're doing, there's the positive of being honest with them, but there's the down side. People who have pushed me for more details, leave me feeling that they genuinely want to know how my progress is going. When I told someone that's two steps forward and one step back, they turned to me and said, "Well, at least you can walk!" It gave me the impression that they thought I sounded like I was complaining, but I hadn't meant to be.

I had someone ask me how I was really doing. I told them that I am much better than I was, but that my legs freeze up when I don't use them for awhile and I have to use the cane when I get up in the night to use the restroom. After a few steps with the cane, I can usually hobble the rest of the way. They also freeze up when I've been sitting at the computer, watching TV or riding in a car too long. Usually, I don't need a cane with the last three, but have to stand there for a minute or two before starting to hobble. In a minute or two my gait returns more to normal. The person told me that they have health issues and they just ignore them. It made me feel like the person just thought I was just complaining and should tough it out. It's difficult, because I didn't feel like I had been complaining and was just giving them truthful information. I think some people just want to hear everything is O.K. which is fine, but then they shouldn't push for a more in-depth answer. I'll have to remember this when I ask others how they are doing after a long illness or injury.

I don't have the answer for all of this. The thing I most often say is, "I'm truly blessed. God makes me stronger every day." It's the truth, but some still push for more details. It's just tricky knowing how much to tell people, especially when you have something that's involved a long healing process. 

Since these are examples of how I've applied these Bible verses to my experience, they may not reflect the whole meaning of the verse.

I'm including You Tube Video clips on caregiving that I found interesting, inspirational, or might be helpful to others, but am not responsible for the content in the videos. Always check first with a physician before trying any suggestions mentioned.
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Flip Side-Seeing Things that Need to Be Cleaned

He will bless those who fear the Lord, Both small and great. May the Lord give you increase more and more, You and your children. Psalm 115:13-14 NKJV

After four years of overseeing my dad's care, because he has Parkinson's Disease, it was the Flip Side, when I had broken my heel and couldn't walk on it for about three months. During this time, I would see things that were accumulating dust or had become dirty.

God let me know that if I drew this to my caregiver's attention, it might make that person feel like I was complaining, when they were already doing so very much during my inability to clean. Although it wasn't always easy, it was better to sit on those observations and save my comments for something that was a 10 in importance to me.

Fortunately for me, Christ would remind me of this periodically when I was tempted to say something that may have come across as being critical or complaining. In the long run, what's a little dust when the tone of the house remains positive?

Since these are examples of how I've applied these Bible verses to my experience, they may not reflect the whole meaning of the verse.

I'm including You Tube Video clips on caregiving that I found interesting, inspirational, or might be helpful to others, but am not responsible for the content in the videos. Always check first with a physician before trying any suggestions mentioned.
By: Theresa Hsu, TEDxSingapore, TEDx Talks via You Tube


Flip Side-Cleaning the Fridge

Return to your rest, O my soul, For the Lord has dealt bountifully with you. For You have delivered my soul from death, My eyes from tears, And my feet from falling. Psalm 116:7-8 NKJV

I realized as I got stronger, I would have to clean the fridge out to figure out what was in there and where it was. Fortunately for me, my husband bought the groceries, made the food, did the laundry as my broken foot healed. I was truly blessed, but needed to start taking on more responsibility now that I was starting to get stronger.


I sat a chair by the refrigerator and a bowl with water. Also, I had some somewhat flat rimmed boxes on a chair nearby, so I could set the food on them while I cleaned.

In addition to the fridge needing the cleaning after my being incapacitated the majority of six months during the healing process, it was beneficial to know what foods we had and put them in a somewhat orderly location. I should have paced how long I stood a little better, but other than that, things went pretty well. It felt good to have done something productive after all those months.


Since these are examples of how I've applied these Bible verses to my experience, they may not reflect the whole meaning of the verse.

I'm including You Tube Video clips on caregiving that I found interesting, inspirational, or might be helpful to others, but am not responsible for the content in the videos. Always check first with a physician before trying any suggestions mentioned.
By: 100Huntley Street, Jessie Jordan, Denise Lodde, Christine Hopwood, Paul Henderson, Janet Sherman, Jaqueline McPhee, Gail White via You Tube


Flip Side-Trying to Regain Your Strength

Oh, give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! for His mercy endures forever. Psalm 118:29 NKJV

I had been supervising my dad's care over the past four years. Now that I had my heel broken, it flipped everything upside down. Now, I was the one who was the caregivee. It was important to be prayerful about how Christ best wanted me to proceed in this capacity.

There were times when I had to practice particular exercises in the process of getting stronger, some at home and some at physical therapy. Sure, sometimes it hurt, but I had prayed for God to provide the right physical therapy team for me. I knew they wouldn't lead me wrong, so I tried to be open to doing the exercises they said. 

The other part of this is being patient. It's easy to get frustrated because the healing process doesn't take place fast enough. Christ let me know early on that He would be with me through the healing process. When I would feel that things weren't moving fast enough, I would remember this and try to put the timing of my healing in Christ's very capable hands.

Since these are examples of how I've applied these Bible verses to my experience, they may not reflect the whole meaning of the verse.

I'm including You Tube Video clips on caregiving that I found interesting, inspirational, or might be helpful to others, but am not responsible for the content in the videos. Always check first with a physician before trying any suggestions mentioned.
By: Alliance for Aging Research via You Tube



The Flip Side-Physical Therapy

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward. Psalm 127:3 NKJV

Now, that I was put into an air cast, it was time to start putting an increasing amount of weight on my injured foot. The goal shared with me was to continue to keep adding weight until I no longer needed the walker. The only thing was, I had no idea of how to do it and the P.A. gave me no literature describing the process.

All I could think of was to watch YouTube videos of weight bearing on an injured foot using a walker. The videos for 25% & 50% weight bearing using a walker were very helpful, but there were none I could find for more than that. I started watching the weight bearing videos using crutches, which I finally determined was what I needed to do. 

Well, I tried one crutch like the videos and realized one crutch, as they showed, left me too wobbly. I decided to try using two crutches the next night, but thought I'd be alright trying without someone there to spot me-Big Mistake! I took 1-2 steps with the crutches on my carpet and fell down on my injured foot. Fortunately, shortly before I started walking with the crutches, God had given me the instincts to add more air to my air cast, which might be why there was no further damage to my broken heel.

After examining the X-Ray the next week, the doctor wrote out  a referral for physical therapy. That's what I wanted all along, but didn't speak up for myself much earlier when I should have.

I prayed and asked Christ to give me the physical therapy team that would be best for my healing needs. What an answer to prayer! The wonderful physical therapy team helped move me forward to full weight bearing and walking, despite all my fears of falling. They are currently working to assist me with developing a more normal gait pattern. I have been very blessed!

Since these are examples of how I've applied these Bible verses to my experience, they may not reflect the whole meaning of the verse.

I'm including You Tube Video clips on caregiving that I found interesting, inspirational, or might be helpful to others, but am not responsible for the content in the videos. Always check first with a physician before trying any suggestions mentioned.
By: Xtra AgedCare via You Tube


The Flip-Side-Placement of Things

Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one's youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate. Psalm 127:4-5 NKJV 

I have been overseeing my dad's care for the last four years. During that time, it's been important to me to be a Christian Caregiver, making the decisions Christ would want on my dad's behalf. That somewhat changed when I broke my heel and was told I couldn't walk for 90 days. I still oversaw my dad's care, but in addition, I had become a caregivee.

One of the things I think is funny is the placement of things. I have prided myself for conserving space. I utilized every little knook and cranny as a potential storage spot. Pride is one of the many ways Satan sneaks up and tries to trip up Christians!

I wanted a book to read, but I had stored these particular books underneath my nightstand on the floor. That didn't do me any good, because I couldn't get to them and I didn't want to ask my husband, because it's difficult for him to get down on the floor and get up. Well, the magazines I wanted were on the floor underneath my dresser. The wrapping paper I needed was stuffed in a box all the way in the back of the closet in a tight space. Some of the dishes or foods I wanted were on a very low shelf or a very high shelf that I couldn't get to.

All of this has made me prayerfully consider what I need to do now that I am almost better from my I injury. I talked to my husband today about me reorganizing the kitchen, with his assistance. The idea is to look at the placement of things with a new perspective. The goal is to put more frequently used or heavy items at a height that is easy to get to. Things that are used less frequently or are light would be put in the higher and lower cabinets. I would never have thought of this if Christ hadn't given me this new perspective on the placement of things, because of my foot injury. God is definitely good!


Since these are examples of how I've applied these Bible verses to my experience, they may not reflect the whole meaning of the verse.

I'm including You Tube Video clips on caregiving that I found interesting, inspirational, or might be helpful to others, but am not responsible for the content in the videos. Always check first with a physician before trying any suggestions mentioned.
By: Amy Cohn, Amy Alexander, Monkeysee, Home Instead, General Mills via You Tube


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