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Thursday, October 27, 2016

Leaving an Inheritance

A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just. Proverbs 13:22

My dad didn't sell his mother's house all those years after she passed, because he wanted it to be an inheritance for his children. He fixed it up and rented it to renters who didn't appreciate all he had done. Time after time, he would have to go in and repair the rental, but always with the idea of it being an inheritance for his children.

Many times I tried to talk my dad into selling the house and take a trip with his wife or for them to do something fun with the money. I hated to see him fretting about repairing and renting the house of  those who did not respect his efforts of time, money, and sweat that went into keeping this house as an inheritance.

My dad was trying to do exactly what this Bible verse says. I'm not sure as I would have been as patient and kept as focused on his end goal as my dad has been. We have all been very blessed to have had him in our lives. A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just. Proverbs 13:22

Since these are examples of how I've applied these Bible verses to my experience, they may not reflect the whole meaning of the verse.

I'm including You Tube Video clips on caregiving that I found interesting, inspirational, or might be helpful to others, but am not responsible for the content in the videos. Always check first with a physician before trying any suggestions mentioned.



Caregiving Video: 5 Tips to Become a Better Caregiver- Tips for Dementia Caregivers
By: Cindy Keith, M.I.N.D. ( Moving In Nurturing Directions) via You Tube



Thursday, October 20, 2016

Protective of My Dad's Dignity

Ephesians 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

For the most part, Dad has gotten absolutely outstanding care. We've been very blessed! This one time, we went to a different hospital and that wasn't the case. The young nurse tried to get my dad up which is near impossible to do without another person, because he has Parkinson's Disease. 

She tapped him in the stomach and said that he just needs more physical therapy and needs to get stronger so he could get up. Well, although he's had physical therapy, he's not able to get up on his own and when he does, he generally falls on the floor. He has had a hip replaced to prove it.

Several of the younger nurses wouldn't try to get Dad up and take him to the bathroom, because it's not easy to move him around, because his body gets rigid. They would shove a bedpan under him and leave it there for a period of time, which undermined his ability to dedicate, something he really needed to do.

I have to remember that these nurses just weren't experienced with patients with Parkinson's Disease. I know it's not easy to maneuver my dad, although he only weighs about 130, because his legs become rigid. We have checked into finding a more Senior Friendly hospital for him to go to next time. In the meantime, I need to forgive the nurses. They try hard and the experience will come with time. I was concerned that some of the comments from the one nurse were possibly hurtful to my dad and I'm protective of him and his dignity.  

Since these are examples of how I've applied these Bible verses to my experience, they may not reflect the whole meaning of the verse.

I'm including You Tube Video clips on caregiving that I found interesting, inspirational, or might be helpful to others, but am not responsible for the content in the videos. Always check first with a physician before trying any suggestions mentioned.



Caregiving Video: America Now: Make Your Home Safe for Aging Family Members
By: Leeza Gibbons, Bill Rancic, Teepa Snow, Senior Helpers National via You Tube



Thursday, October 13, 2016

A Lesson Learned!

A fool despiseth his father's instruction: but he that regardeth reproof is prudent. Proverbs 15:5

My father always told me not to shuffle my feet when I was younger. He would have me walk back and forth practicing raising my feet when I walk. Having fallen more times that I would like to admit, I realize that I was defiant back then and shuffled my feet every time I could. I Cut Off My Nose to Spite My Face, as the saying goes.

It seems that this has been true in so many other situations with Dad. The doctor's or the nurses tell me something is important, needs to be tended to right then. I take it to heart to try to address those issues in Dad's care, but he isn't concerned about it and puts it off on the back burner, something that has caused me frustration, at times.

The reason that I'm writing about this is that more often than not, Dad was right. In hind sight, the issue didn't need to be addressed yet and/or resolved itself with out my interceding. I find that pretty amazing, since I was trying to listen to the urgency of medical professionals and thought I was trying to accomplish what was right when I should have listened to Dad-a lesson learned!

Since these are examples of how I've applied these Bible verses to my experience, they may not reflect the whole meaning of the verse.

I'm including You Tube Video clips on caregiving that I found interesting, inspirational, or might be helpful to others, but am not responsible for the content in the videos. Always check first with a physician before trying any suggestions mentioned.



Video: Medicine Cabinet Safety Check-Senior Care Corner Family Caregiver Video Tips
By: Kathy, SeniorCareCorner.com, via You Tube



Thursday, October 6, 2016

Hanging On by a Thread and a Prayer

Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men. Acts 5:29


I was watching a movie about a week ago. It wasn't necessarily my kind of movie, but the main character's dad died within the first five minutes of the movie and I couldn't change the channel. I actually could have, but felt drawn to that show since my dad is ailing and is hanging on by a thread and a prayer. While I watched riveted to that movie as the different members responded to their grief differently, I ate a whole large bag of light popcorn!

It's been almost two years ago that he moved here for us to help take care of him, because he has Parkinson's Disease. During that time, he eventually had to move to a group home after a stint in rehab following pneumonia, because the doctor's said that we were no longer able to offer him enough medical support. He lived there for quite a while. I was very blessed, because it was in my town and I could go visit him every day, because I missed him so!

Nine months after that earlier episode, Dad had to go to the hospital again with pneumonia. We thought that was the end of that, but were mistaken. It was about five days after he returned home from the hospital that we had to take him back again, because he had pneumonia in his other lung. At the end of his stay there, the doctor said that my dad needed to be in a facility that had skilled nursing. I was very sad to even consider him leaving the group home where they took such good care of him.

What I was most sad about was his leaving me! We had Dad in the local nursing home for rehab after his earlier bout of pneumonia nine months earlier. Not only was it extremely expensive after the 20 days that Medicare pays, but Dad would have had to pay that for a shared room. After prayerful consideration, we decided he should go to the State Veteran's Home which is an hour away. That way, he could still get the skilled nursing and the private room he wanted for the same amount of money it cost in the group home.

During this time, I changed my mind so many times. I had talked myself into believing it was best for Dad to be here with me rather than an hour away in the State Veteran's Home. Then, during prayer, Christ tugged on my heart about my asking what He wanted us to do for Dad. I thought about how a private room had become available for Dad at the State Veteran's Home when it never was available when we had checked before. I was listening to my own selfish nature instead of listening to what God knew was best for Dad. Fortunately, through that prayer, Christ redirected my thinking and we took Dad to the State Veteran's Home. He loves it there! About 2/3 or more of the residents are wheelchair bound and I think it makes him feel better about being in a wheelchair. Dad's still hanging on by a thread and a prayer, but I'm so glad that I finally listened instead of relying on my own desires. Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men. Acts 5:29


Since these are examples of how I've applied these Bible verses to my experience, they may not reflect the whole meaning of the verse.

I'm including You Tube Video clips on caregiving that I found interesting, inspirational, or might be helpful to others, but am not responsible for the content in the videos. Always check first with a physician before trying any suggestions mentioned.



Caregiving Video: Care Giving Club Me Time Monday Tip- "How To" Home Safety Tips
By: Sherry Snelling, caregivingclub via You Tube



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